Why You Are Fat and They Are Not

Have you ever wonder why some people are always slim without much effort made? They never attend any so called healthy weight loss program and they seem to eat everything you eat and do not go for massive exercises yet have a fantastic body shape?

There must be a difference between you and them. But what are they? The questions bother me much as a lot of my close friends face the same challenges. And I deeply believe there are people out there facing the same problems: Losing weight for a short period of time, and the pounds always come back, and usually bring along a few of their friends.

My friends tried various healthy weight loss and diet program. They also joined fitness center for sweaty workouts. All did not work well as they expected. Finally, they came to a conclusion. They blamed their genetics or other weight loss myth that make them overweight. They just could not help out even they wanted as their ballooning weight was totally out of their control.

Is that what you think also? It does not matter whether your answer is Yes or No. Please don’t get me wrong. Healthy diet and exercise are correct ways for healthy weight loss results. And I do believe you have make your very best to work it out. So, what are the real obstacles that make you fail in losing weight and keep it off? Out of my curiosity, I observe and talk to the group of people who are overweight and slim, finding out the actual causes that differentiate them. I do hope you go through this article carefully, because it will definitely help you for healthy weight loss purpose.

Join the Correct Group of People

Have you heard about the old saying that “birds of a feather tend to flock together”? It is not just that you are attracted to people that are similar to you, but you actually BECOME like your friends or family members from spending time together often. In another words, the people you spend the most time with will influence heavily on your lifestyle and eating habits.

How frequent you heard the saying about “like father like son”? How many times you discover an overweight child from overweight parents? And have you noticed that the different groups of people that you spend time with are either, almost entirely fit in shape or entirely out of shape?

You need to aware this, acknowledge the real situation before you decide to take further action. So, let us see what is in the mind of this group of people and what are they doing to maintain fit and slim.

Sharing on Maintaining Healthy Body Weight

The group of people I talk to ranging from gym fans, yoga members, earthy granola types as well as housewife groups. They have different views and opinions on how to maintain a healthy body weight that you will not want to miss them.
Rebecca is an office lady from the group who is in favor of gym workouts. The group of her friends seems never to lack the discipline to hit the gym. All of them have amazing body shapes as they work out every time. And of course, they eat healthy food.

Ruff learns yoga for 10 years. She used to overweight before. She manages to adjust her eating habit, fitting to her body’s need after learning yoga. According to her, she eats less emotionally, understanding what her body really needs. She never feels so happy with her slim body now, even though she never joining any diet or healthy weight loss program.

Elaine is an earthy granola type of lady. She always goes for social services and promotes environmental friendly concept. Without using makeup and expensive skin care products, she manages to enjoy healthy skin and good health.

And last is Nicole, a housewife who is busy taking care of 4 kids. She performs exercise 3 times in a week, eat healthy and maintain a fantastic body shape, even after giving birth of 4 kids. And guess what? Her friends she spends time with are exactly having the same healthy body weight as she is.

What make me curious is what make them all have the same fit and slim body, while what are they doing are quite different among themselves. After going deeper, I finally discover there are 2 things that clearly every one of these women has in common when it comes to the food they eat and the focus they place.

1) Eat for Nourishing the Body

When they eat, they eat for nourishing the body, rather than eat for pleasure alone. For example, Rebecca eat food that contribute to her lean muscle mass building. She understands how many calories and what type of food that her body needs to make her look and maintain fit. Ruff believes fresh and unprocessed foods will help in her spiritual practice, and thus seldom touch fast foods. Elaine always goes for organic foods. She cannot tolerate putting man-made chemicals and coloring into her body, which will burden the liver’s work load. Nicole does not forbid any types of food, as long as she eat a well-balanced diet, including carbohydrates (refers grain here), protein, vegetables and fruits in a correct proportion. (You may refer calculate calories article for correct food proportion for healthy weight loss purpose)

I look back my personal experience. I lost 8 kg 10 years ago and maintain the weight around the similar level since then. I have a slim body now and I enjoy having it. However, everyone said I had a big bone structure 10 years ago. Even my 20-years experience yoga teacher said it was hard for me to reduce weight as my body was so called “fit body shape”. But believe me, I was not fit, I had extra body fat that time. In fact, I neither change much of my lifestyle and daily activities, nor joining any healthy weight loss program. The main thing I do is just adjusting my diet habit. Applying 80/20 rules, I include 80% of healthy diet in my meal, while allowing some so called unhealthy food on and off in an appropriate amount.

2) Focus on Healthy Body

When they eat, they think the consequence of the food towards the body. According to Ruff, she used to eat for pleasure before she lost weight. She felt satisfied the moment she ate. Anyway, she was overwhelmed by the feeling of guilty after that. Her emotion flies high and down, making her more stress and gain more weight. After practicing yoga, she starts to learn how different types of food infect her mentally and physically. With the inner peace, she slim down by just focusing on having healthy body.

As for Nicole, she never thinks of losing weight in her life. According to her, keeping an eye on enjoying good health makes she eat healthily and exercise regularly. When you do the right things, the results will reflect at your appearance automatically.


The root reason a people who can slim down is from inside, not outer factor. You are in the healthy weight loss progress the moment your mind switch to eating for nourishing and focus on having good health. Of course, you need to socialize with the right group of people besides understand the other weight loss concept.

Believe me, the root reason a people who can lose weight and keep it off is from inside, the change of mind towards health, rather than just want to slim down because he or she is overweight.

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